Real love is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person.
Then you will realize that real love isn't just a euphoric, spontaneous feeling--it's a deliberate choice--a plan to love each other for better and worse, for richer and poorer, in sickness and in health. Of course, you don't choose who you're attracted to, but you definitely choose who you fall in love with and (more importantly) who you stay in love with.
Our society places a lot of emphasis on feelings. We are taught that we should always follow our feelings and do whatever makes us happy. But feelings are very fickle and fleeting. Real love, on the other hand, is like the north star in the storms of life; it is constant, sure, and true. Whenever we're lost and confused we can find strength in the love that we have chosen.
Besides, life already offers us plenty of spontaneity: rejection, job loss, heartache, disappointment, despair, illness, and a host of other problems. We simply can't abandon ship every time we encounter a storm in our marriage. Real love is about weathering the storms of life together.
*"That's why I felt I had to say that even in the eye of the storm I would love to hold me, especially in these times."
Love is so much more than some random, euphoric feeling. And real love isn't always fluffy, cute, and cuddly. More often than not, real love has its sleeves rolled up, dirt and grime smeared on its arms, and sweat dripping down its forehead. Real love asks us to do hard things--to forgive one another, to support each other's dreams, to comfort in times of grief, or to care for family. Real love isn't easy--and it's nothing like the wedding day--but it's far more meaningful and wonderful.
I recently came across this wonderful quote: "No one falls in love by choice, it is by chance. No one stays in love by chance, it is by work. And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice."
Whenever my wife and I run into a problem in our marriage we do our best to choose love. While we're certainly not perfect, the love we share today is more real and more wonderful than anything we had ever anticipated.
So, whatever spontaneous storm may come our way I plan on loving my wife.
If you truly love someone (and they truly love you), commit to that love and plan on it being hard work.
But also plan on it being the most rewarding work of your life.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/seth-adam-smith/real-love-is-a-choice_b_6039412.html
El amor verdadero es un compromiso incondicional con una persona imperfecta.
El amor verdadero es despejar las tormentas de la vida juntos.
El amor verdadero es perdón y apoyo incondicional.
Mantener y cuidar aquello que te importa es una elección.
Si realmente amas a alguien (y realmente eres correspondido), no pierdas de vista esos lazos afectivos que os unen. No fueron fáciles de crear, no fueron fáciles de construir. Son frágiles, fáciles de romper. Si realmente te importa tu vínculo, cuida de ellos.
*"I don't love you because you are the most beautiful girl in the world, I love you because you make my world the most beautiful."
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